Finding Your Voice: A Woman's Guide to Using Self-talk for Fulfilling Relationships, Work, and Life ~ Hardback ~ Dorothy W. Cantor

Helping women recognize and realize their true desiresIn this remarkable new book, a team of highly credentialed psychologists shows women how to overcome unproductive, blameful thoughts and unrealistic expectations the things they tell themselves about how their marriages, friendships, children, and careers should be. The book encourages women to counteract idealized images by using self talk to sort out where those "should" messages come from, isolate their own voices, and then take steps to meet their unique needs. Dorothy Cantor, PsyD, Carol Goodheart, EdD, Sandra Haber, PhD, Lenore Walker, EdD, Karen Zager, PhD, Ellen McGrath, PhD, and Alice Rubenstein, EdD, are distinguished mental health care professionals. Andrea Thompson is a professional writer.Table of ContentsPreface. Chapter 1. Introducing Self Talk. Chapter 2. The Friendship Expectation: "I've Always Got My Girlfriends." Chapter 3. The Dating Expectation: "I Can Find the Perfect Mate (But If I Don't, I'll Be Just Fine Without One)." Chapter 4. The Sex Expectation: "I'm Healthily, Happily, Wildly Sexual." Chapter 5. The Marriage Expectation: "I Can Achieve the Marriage I Want (But If I Don't, I'll End the Marriage)." Chapter 6. The Child-Rearing Expectation: "I'm Raising a Perfect Child, and Loving Every Minute of It." Chapter 7. The Work Expectation: "I'm Happy with My Career (or Happy without One)." Chapter 8. The Money Expectation: "I Have My Financial Life Well in Hand." Chapter 9. The Balancing Act Expectation: "I'm Running My Life, It's Not Running Me." Chapter 10. The Appearance Expectation: "I Love My Body, Just As It Is." Chapter 11. The Self-Esteem Expectation: "I Believe in Myself." Chapter 12. Self Talk Among Friends: Beginning the Conversation.Author BiographyDOROTHY CANTOR, Psy.D., a past president of the American Psychological Association, is the coauthor of What Do You Want to Do When You Grow Up? and was interviewed on the Today show. CAROL GOODHEART, Ed.D., SANDRA HABER, Ph.D., and KAREN ZAGER, Ph.D., are past presidents of Psychologists in Independent Practice. ELLEN McGRATH, Ph.D., and ALICE RUBENSTEIN, Ed.D., are past presidents of the American Psychological Association Division of Psychotherapy. LENORE WALKER, Ed.D., executive director of the Domestic Violence Institute, is a past president of the American Psychological Association Division of Media Psychology and the author of Terrifying Love. ANDREA THOMPSON is a former McCall's articles editor and a professional writer. As a group, these seven psychologists, all of whom are in private practice, have formed the Women to Women Psychology Group, W2W. Each has served as president of a national psychological organization with a total of ten presidencies among them. Together they have received fifty-eight awards and honors, have authored twenty-eight books and more than eighty-five articles and book chapters, and have been quoted in many national magazines and newspapers, including Time, Newsweek, Mademoiselle, Cosmopolitan, the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Washington Post, USA Today, Ladies Home Journal, Working Woman, Family Circle, Parenting, Woman's Day, Psychology Today, YM, and Working Mother. They have counseled more than 50,000 clients. Visit their Web site at www finding-your-voice.com.